It’s not a cliché, fear really is debilitating. It can stop us from experiencing so much. Imagine if we actually were, or even believed ourselves, immune to it? There’s so much more we could accomplish, we’d travel more, succeed more, love more, communicate more, be healthier (we hope) and not to mention; be wealthier, both financially and emotionally. Nothing would be beyond our grasp.
And trust me everyone feels fear at some stage in their life, in one way or another. It doesn’t matter if you can free-climb a mountain, jump out of a plane, or even if you’re a self-made millionaire, there was a time when caution raised its little head and made you wonder about the risks involved…….don’t tell me it didn’t?
Early morning, Twickenham. UK
I myself have wanted to write ‘the novel’ for years, but something always got in the way, or so I convinced myself. Excuses are a wonderful thing aren’t they? You know the sort I mean; not enough money in the bank, not having the right skills, what would the family think, too tired to type. Blah, blah, blah. I could go on forever.
My latest little delaying tactic, is research. You would not believe all the information I’ve gathered. Far too much, to actually read anytime soon. So what has held me up? You guessed it, that horrible little ‘F-word’. And I should know better, in fact I really need to walk my talk. If I was one of my own clients, I’d give myself a nice little talking to.
But as Ambrose Redmoon wrote in; ‘No Peaceful Warriors’ (1991), “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear”.
White Tiger, Bali
True, there are some fears that you need help to overcome, a major one being; phobias, which range from the common (spiders) to the bizarre (toilets, don’t ask), and to the person experiencing them they can be horrendous. But for the……I don’t want to say, less serious, because all fear is scary (pun intended)……..Instead I’ll say qualms or uncertainties, there some things you can do to help yourself.
Local lake visitor
Meditation is an incredible tool and it doesn’t have to be hard or long-winded. Even 5 minutes to centre you breathing when faced with am apprehensive situation helps.
Using regular affirmations help, such as:
- I am a strong, capable woman/man, and I can achieve anything
- I am safe, I am secure, and I am well protected by spirit/the Universe.
- My goals/dreams are within my reach.
- Fear is just a word, no more, no less.
Just remember affirmations must be present tense, have unlimited scope, and do not include negative references.
And let’s not forget to utilise; the Law of Attraction, or manifestation, or using ritual (if, so inclined), even colour and crystal therapy can help you. Believe it or not, you even have intuition spots on your body, that can help you when faced with difficult situations, but that’s for a different post.
If you’re a little nervous, or wary or just downright scared before taking the next step, remember that you’re not alone, and if you’d like to comment about any fears in your life, please feel free.